A mother has stirred widespread reactions on social media after openly sharing the relationship advice she gave her daughter regarding dating and commitment.
According to her, “As long as a man hasn’t married you or paid your bride price, you are still single and free to follow other people while dating him.”
Her statement quickly went viral, with many internet users debating whether the advice reflects wisdom rooted in tradition or promotes unhealthy modern dating behavior.
Modern debate on traditional guidance
The mother further explained that young women should avoid emotionally investing fully in a man who has not made a formal commitment.
She emphasized the importance of self-growth, personal goals, and financial independence before settling into marriage, noting that many women abandon their dreams for relationships that never lead to anything meaningful.
In her view, maintaining independence helps women protect their future and avoid being taken for granted by men who are not serious about marriage.
She also added that true commitment is proven through actions, not promises, stressing that paying bride price or officially marrying a woman shows responsibility and readiness.
While some social media users praised her advice as realistic and empowering, others argued that relationships today are built on trust and mutual respect rather than traditional milestones alone.
Several critics insisted that encouraging people to “follow others” while dating could damage emotional bonds and promote disloyalty.
Social media reactions
@Vr3ch commented: “In this generation you can’t get love if you aren’t financially buoyant, you always need money to be in a stable dating relationship which is being stated aside she mentioning paying her dowry. Let love be, work hard on yourselves first goes.”
Another user supported the mother’s stance, saying many men enjoy long-term relationships without ever planning marriage, leaving women heartbroken in the end.
@unsatisfie48317 wrote: “This is what their mothers is teaching them. Now you can see their mama is their role model tell me how you expect them to do better. Nonsense.”
Some users accused the mother of encouraging materialism in relationships rather than emotional connection and loyalty.
@SamaDoelduy added: “My mother told me same thing and I told my daughters same thing. Single till married!”
Others shared personal experiences where similar advice helped them avoid wasting years in uncommitted relationships.
@PillsThinker remarked: “A good advice that might keep you single all through your life.”
This comment sparked further arguments about whether strict standards protect women or reduce their chances of building lasting relationships.
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“ As long as a man hasn’t married you or paid your bride price, you are still single and free to follow other people while dating him”
——— mother advices her daughter pic.twitter.com/GTtTZGQpFB
— honest30bgfan (@honest30bgfan_) January 25, 2026