Woman sparks widespread discussion after revealing a long-held personal dilemma involving the paternity of her six-year-old child, a deception she has carried for several years, and her current relationship dynamics.
The unnamed woman turned to a Facebook platform to seek advice and share her story, highlighting the emotional complexity and potential consequences of her actions on everyone involved.
Falsely attributing pregnancy
She explained that six years ago, she became pregnant by a man she considered irresponsible and incapable of providing adequate support for a child. Fearing the ramifications of revealing the truth, she falsely claimed that another man she was dating at the time—a traffic police officer—was the father of her child.
According to her account, the officer accepted responsibility for the child without hesitation and went on to provide consistent emotional, financial, and practical support. Even after their romantic relationship ended, he continued to play an active role in the child’s life, raising him as his own and ensuring his well-being.
Entering a new relationship
The woman disclosed that she later entered into a new romantic relationship and recently became pregnant again. Her current partner, along with his family, have acknowledged the pregnancy, paid part of the traditional bride price (lobola), and welcomed both her and her first child into their home, where he now provides for them fully.
Despite this new chapter, the woman revealed a web of complications stemming from her earlier deception. She now wishes to inform the traffic officer that he is not the biological father of her first child and intends to end his financial and emotional involvement, as she believes her current partner is fully capable of supporting both children without outside assistance.
However, she also confessed that she previously told her current partner that the biological father of her first child had passed away several years ago, adding another layer of complexity to her situation. The confession underscores her struggle with honesty, responsibility, and the potential emotional impact on all parties involved, including the child.
Seeking guidance
Her post has raised significant questions about ethics, responsibility, and the consequences of long-term deception. Many commenters have urged her to carefully consider the emotional welfare of her six-year-old child, the potential reaction of the traffic officer, and the implications for her current relationship before taking any steps.
In her own words, she wrote:
“Hi Auntie Momoza. Please keep me anonymous. I had a baby 6 years ago. The guy who made me pregnant was not serious about life, so I pinned the pregnancy on another guy I was dating who is a Traffic Cop because I knew he’d be able to take care of my baby. I don’t wanna lie, he’s been the best father ever. We broke up but he continued to be the best father both financially and emotionally. I met another guy last year and I recently fell pregnant by him. His family came to report the pregnancy and also paid half the lobola. He has been taking care of me and my son. We stay with him in his house. So now I want to tell the Traffic cop the truth that my son is not his but don’t know how. I don’t want him to take care of my son anymore. My current man is capable and I don’t need that dude anymore. I told my man that my baby daddy died 3 years ago. What’s your advice?”
Her post has attracted mixed reactions online, with many users debating the moral, emotional, and practical considerations involved, while others offered empathetic advice to navigate this delicate situation.
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