A Nigerian lady has sparked online conversations after sharing her candid advice for single women on how to secure a husband, amid ongoing discussions about the difficulty of finding genuine, marriage-ready men in today’s society.
The viral post, shared on X (formerly Twitter) by @Janefrances_Al, immediately drew attention from thousands of users, with many agreeing, disagreeing, and sharing their personal experiences regarding relationships, dating, and marriage in Nigeria.
Husbands Are Easier to Find Than You Think
In her widely shared post, the lady insisted that “husband is very easy to get,” emphasizing that men are plentiful and available, but it is the current generation of women who complicate the process by being overly selective or having excessively high expectations.
She argued that societal changes have led some women to believe they must wait for a perfect partner, overlooking the reality that marriage requires compromise, patience, and dedication, and that perfection in a spouse is rare.
Sacrifices and Tolerance in Marriage
The lady encouraged women to be prepared to embrace traditional wifehood roles, which include providing for, taking care of, and supporting their husbands emotionally and financially. She emphasized the importance of tolerance, even when faced with challenging behavior from a spouse, including instances where a husband may show interest in other women. She suggested avoiding confrontation and instead practicing composure and discretion.
She said, “Marriage is about partnership and sometimes patience. If a husband makes mistakes or seeks attention elsewhere, handle it gracefully without arguments or public drama. Focus on your role and the life you are building together.”
Prioritize Career and Independence
The social media user also highlighted the importance of financial stability and personal independence for women, stressing that a thriving career not only builds confidence but also positions women to make informed decisions when selecting a life partner. She argued that women should not depend entirely on men for financial security but use their careers to strengthen their bargaining power and sense of self-worth.
“Having a strong career doesn’t mean you sacrifice marriage or traditional duties. It means you bring value and stability into the relationship while being able to choose wisely from the men around you,” she added.
Respecting Tradition and Embracing Wifehood
According to her, women today often expect more than their mothers and aunts endured in the past. She argued that embracing traditional roles, showing dedication, and making personal sacrifices can greatly increase the chances of attracting a marriage-ready husband. Women should be ready to house, feed, support, and care for their spouses while maintaining their dignity and independence.
She elaborated, “Husband is very easy to get. It is the girls of this generation who are being picky! If not, it’s very easy to get a husband. All you need do is have a thriving career, then choose from the crowd in Nigeria a man to house him, feed him, take care of him, and perform all your duties as a wife. It doesn’t end there. When he starts wandering, or his eyes start lingering, you either befriend all the women in a calm manner, don’t complain, don’t argue, or better yet, turn a blind eye when a man whom you are housing, clothing, and providing for is reciprocating your kind deeds with lust. Men are very easy to get. It is just this generation of women who dare think that they deserve better than what their mothers and aunts endured with grace.”
Her words resonated with many online, sparking debates on generational differences, dating expectations, and the evolving dynamics of marriage in modern Nigerian society. Some praised her for being brutally honest, while others criticized her views as outdated or overly conservative. Nonetheless, the post reinforced discussions about the balance between career, independence, and traditional marital roles.
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