A Nigerian lady has generated significant attention and sparked conversations on social media after publicly calling out her mother for what she describes as a glaring lack of involvement, care, and emotional support in her baby’s life, a role traditionally expected of a grandmother.
New Mum Cries Out On X
The new mother, identified on social media as @neetahworld, took to X (formerly Twitter) to air her frustrations over her mother’s apparent disengagement since she welcomed her child. In her posts, she highlighted the emotional toll of feeling unsupported, especially in the early stages of motherhood when the presence of family can provide significant comfort and reassurance.
Says Mother Has Seen Baby Only Once
According to her posts, the mother has only seen the baby a single time—during the naming ceremony—despite residing in Benin City and not being actively employed. The new mother expressed that this limited interaction makes her feel that her mother is disconnected from the grandchild’s life entirely, creating a sense of neglect and emotional distance that is difficult to reconcile with cultural expectations of family bonds.
“Zero Atom of Care,” She Claims
The new mum went further to highlight the lack of communication from her mother, noting that there have been virtually no calls or check-ins since the child was born. She expressed her astonishment at her mother’s absence and lack of awareness regarding the baby’s growth and milestones. In her words:
“I don’t think my mom knows she’s now a grandma. Last time she saw my baby was during naming and she lives in Benin.
She doesn’t work incase you want to think she’s busy. She doesn’t call us.
I was surprised she called me today saying she saw baby on my status that she has gotten big.
Only God knows when next she will call. Zero atom of care.”
Comparison With Siblings’ Children
Adding to her disappointment, the new mother pointed out that her mother maintains active involvement in the lives of her siblings’ children. This selective attention intensified her feelings of hurt and neglect, suggesting that the lack of care is not due to incapacity or busyness but appears to be a deliberate choice, further fueling her frustration and emotional distress.
Netizens React
Her post quickly garnered widespread attention, eliciting a variety of reactions from other X users. Some tried to offer possible explanations for the mother’s absence, citing reasons such as personal challenges, forgetfulness, or other commitments. Others expressed sympathy for the new mother, highlighting the importance of family support in a child’s early life and the emotional strain caused by perceived neglect.
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In response to these attempts to rationalize her mother’s behavior, the new mum firmly rejected such excuses, emphasizing that her mother does not act in the same detached manner with her siblings’ children. She reiterated that her experience feels isolating and unfair, as the perceived favoritism towards other grandchildren accentuates her feelings of neglect and disappointment. She emphasized the need for consistent familial support and presence, especially during the formative stages of her child’s life.
The situation has since sparked wider discussions online regarding family dynamics, expectations of grandparental involvement, and the emotional impacts of neglect within extended family structures. Her candid posts have encouraged other new parents to share their own experiences and highlight the importance of active family engagement in nurturing and supporting young families.
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