A lady has stirred intense online debate after boldly claiming that men who know how to cook and comfortably handle household chores are major “red flags” when it comes to serious relationships and marriage.
Cooking skills could signal commitment issues, woman claims
According to the woman, men who are self-sufficient at home often become too comfortable being alone and may see little or no need to settle down or commit fully to one partner.
She further alleged that such men tend to enjoy relationships without any long-term intention of marriage, arguing that their independence makes them less likely to value traditional partnership dynamics.
Speaking passionately on the matter, she said, “Any man wey sabi cook na red flag o. Man wey sabi cook ogbono soup, egusi soup, rice and stew, jollof rice and you dey inside that kin relationship with that guy? He no go marry you. If you try to talk, he’ll tell you dey go. Wetin you sabi wey I no sabi. Man wey sabi wash hin cloth, auntie na red flag o. You dey on your own. He no go ever marry you o.”
Her remarks quickly went viral, triggering mixed reactions from social media users who either supported her view or strongly disagreed with what many described as outdated and misleading assumptions.
While some users agreed with her stance, insisting that men should focus more on career growth, financial stability, and leadership roles rather than domestic duties, others pushed back hard against her claims.
Critics highlighted numerous real-life examples of marriages where men who can cook and clean are happy, supportive, and fully committed partners, arguing that domestic skills should be seen as a strength, not a flaw.
The discussion has once again brought gender roles, evolving relationship expectations, and cultural beliefs in modern Nigerian society to the forefront of online conversations.
Social media reactions:
@Fortunate_D commented: “I can cook and wash very well but if banny dey na she go run am for me”
@NuhuSada0 commented: “A man who cooks and cleans is capable. A man who lies, cheats, or disrespects others is a red flag. Big difference.”
@jujubabyxoxo commented: “So I be red flag like this? Wonders shall never end”
@Aquaflow077 commented: “I no get wife be that o”
@OsariemeV commented: “That nah lies me and my wife understand ourself better. It make things easier …my father and mother same thing both can cook, same benin my dear meet good man and good girl”