A Nigerian lady has sparked widespread discussion on social media after opening up about a missed romantic opportunity that slipped away faster than she ever imagined.
In a now-viral video shared by Teniola on X (formerly Twitter), the lady narrated how she met a man she genuinely liked and believed had strong intentions toward her.
According to her, the man was tall, good-looking, well-spoken, and appeared serious about pursuing a meaningful romantic relationship rather than casual interaction.
However, in an attempt to avoid appearing desperate or too eager, she decided to play it cool by adding a bit of small shakara to the situation.
She explained that her decision was influenced by past experiences where she felt she gave in too easily, leading her to believe that slowing things down would give her more control and time to process her emotions.
Unfortunately, this approach backfired. Before she could reassess her stance or reach out to show interest, the man had already disappeared without a trace.
Sharing her regret, she admitted that she did not expect him to walk away so quickly and was shocked by how fast the opportunity vanished.
In her words, she said:
“I give in easily before. So this time, I tried to act hard to get. Before I turned back, he was nowhere to be found. Men, if you’re asking a woman out, always be patient. And the guy is tall and fine. I’m so pained.”
Her confession struck a chord with many viewers, as she openly expressed both frustration and disappointment over the lost chance.
Now left with regret, the lady described the experience as a painful but valuable lesson about modern dating and communication.
The video quickly attracted mixed reactions online. While some sympathized with her and blamed the man for lacking patience, others argued that many men no longer tolerate shakara in today’s dating climate.
Some commenters warned that delayed responses, mixed signals, or emotional unavailability can cause people to miss genuine opportunities and even destiny.
Others maintained that clarity and honest communication are becoming more important as dating becomes increasingly fast-paced and unpredictable.
In today’s modern dating culture, timing, openness, and clear intentions often matter more than playing hard to get.
While some still believe in strategic distance, many agree that a little shakara, when misjudged, can sometimes cost far more than expected.
Watch video below…
You’re toasting me and I just say I should do small shakara, before I look back you already left, and the guy is tall and fine, I’m pa!ned” — Lady pic.twitter.com/wQkaw0X3ff
— TENIOLA (@Teeniiola) December 24, 2025