A UK-based Nigerian woman has ignited widespread discussion online after issuing a bold warning to Nigerian men residing in the United Kingdom, particularly cautioning against bringing their wives from Nigeria. Her comments, which quickly went viral, have sparked debate about the challenges faced by Nigerian couples living abroad and the cultural dynamics that impact marital relationships in the diaspora.
In a video shared by @donpet on X (formerly Twitter), the woman, who identified herself as Igbo, highlighted a concerning trend she has observed among Nigerian couples in the UK, focusing on the Igbo community. She claimed that marital breakdowns are disproportionately affecting Igbo couples, often leading to public disputes and embarrassment for families on social media platforms such as TikTok.
She said in the video:
“Ninety percent of UK marriages that are separated and broken today are Igbos. You can’t see Benin, you can’t see other tribes. It’s only Igbo men and women disgracing themselves on social media. I am Igbo, I need to tell you the truth. You people have failed us woefully.”
The woman elaborated that the pressures of migration, cultural adjustment, and financial responsibilities often place an undue burden on marriages. She argued that these stressors, coupled with the lack of adequate support systems, can contribute to conflicts, separation, and public humiliation for couples.
According to her, relocation to the UK often places excessive strain on marriages, leading to situations where disagreements become public and private family matters are exposed online. She claimed that many of these issues, especially among the Igbo community, are magnified on social media, which she believes leads to further tension and embarrassment.
She offered a direct warning to Nigerian men living abroad:
“If you know you are a Nigerian man living in the UK, the only advice I can give you is to avoid bringing your wife to the UK. Just avoid it. You will later regret it as a man.”
The woman’s remarks have generated mixed reactions from social media users. Some agreed with her assessment, highlighting the strain of financial pressures, cultural shifts, and changing gender roles on marriages in the diaspora. Others criticized her statements as exaggerated and divisive, arguing that they unfairly target Igbo couples and overlook the resilience and success of many Nigerian marriages abroad.
Her video has since prompted discussions on how migration affects marital stability, the role of social media in publicizing private conflicts, and the responsibilities of spouses in adapting to life abroad. The debate continues, reflecting broader concerns about relationships, culture, and family values among Nigerians living outside the country.
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The conversation around her warning continues to trend, with Nigerians weighing in on whether her advice reflects reality or exaggeration, and sparking debates about the experiences of Nigerian families adjusting to life in foreign countries.