A Nigerian lady has captured attention online after openly discussing her dating frustrations with her pastor during a church sermon, a video of which has gone viral on social media.
During the sermon, she highlighted a common challenge faced by women in the church: being taught to wait for men to make the first move rather than pursuing relationships themselves. She expressed concern that many church men are failing to take initiative, leaving church women increasingly anxious about their age and future prospects.
Frustrated by the situation, the lady said,
“We are taught to wait for the man to come because we cannot go after a man. Now we are getting older, and time is not on our side.”
She went further to contrast church men with non-church men, noting that men outside the church seem much more confident and assertive, even at a younger age. She described encounters where a 20-year-old non-church man could approach her boldly and express interest, a situation rarely experienced within her faith community.
“We are spiritual, we like Jesus, and it’s very difficult to drag these guys to church, but the church boys are not coming either,” she added, highlighting her struggle to balance her faith with romantic prospects.
The lady concluded by seeking advice from her pastor on how to navigate these challenges, particularly since most of the men actively showing interest in women of the church are not spiritually inclined, which complicates her options.
Her candid remarks have since sparked widespread debate online. Many women resonated with her concerns, sharing their own experiences and discussing strategies for maintaining faith while also pursuing meaningful relationships. The conversation touches on the broader tension between spirituality, societal expectations, and the realities of modern dating among church members.
The video has also ignited discussion on social media about the differences between church and non-church men, with some users reflecting on confidence, courtship approaches, and the pressures women face as they age.
Watch the video below….
We dress every Sunday to impress church boys but they don’t even look at us, we are getting old and we cannot keep waiting for them.
—— lady says in her church pic.twitter.com/gC52WrUcyz
— honest30bgfan (@honest30bgfan_) December 22, 2025